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Don’t rain on my parade !!

Are you singing???

I’ve got to tell you using songs from musicals as blog titles just happens I don’t plan it! I think in an alternate universe my life should have been one long musical …

Anyway,I digress (still the name of my autobiography by the way don’t steal it !)

I’ve spoken here on the blog about how I’m excited to turn 40 and I’m still very much of that mindset. What could maybe feel a bit depressing with the whole getting older thing I just feel is maybe an opportunity for a new phase of my life . The end of my 30’s isn’t sad for me . It just feels as though turning 40 is like when you’d go back to school after the summer holidays and have those blank exercise cooks and you’d do your absolute neatest handwriting on that gorgeous,crisp ,blank page .

I have a list (course I do ) not of things I want to do before 40 because that’s a lot of pressure, but things I want to do when I turn 40. All positive things , all things that cause no bother to anyone elses life. Nothing I need help from anyone else with. Just some personal goals to really give my 40’s the positive kick start they deserve .

It’s here (the official list is actually more colourful and written in glitter gel pens but they don’t photograph so well!)

I think it’s quite a modest list .

Here though is where the parade rainer- onners come in .

I’m a bit giddy when I’m excited …I want to tell everyone all about my grand plans. This ,my friends, is where you really get to see people .

Surprisingly ,even my children are supportive and positive about my plans .

“How’s your Italian coming along mum ”

” How’s the writing going ?”

“You know noone wants to come to Mull with you right? ”

Ok so the last one doesn’t sound so supportive but as it clearly says on the list go somewhere quiet alone I’m taking it .

The few people I do trust to be on board with my plans really are !They ask and seem interested (appreciate it even if they’re bored of me !)

Then there are …..the others ….

I don’t know if you guys have these kind of people in your life . People who whenever you try to be positive try to stick a big old rain cloud in . You say you’re going for dinner somewhere nice for them to tell you about their friend who went there and got food poisoning? You say you’re starting a new hobby and they used to do that but broke their ankle and ruined their life . You say you got a brand new dress and they tell you it’ll be half price in the sales next week and you’ve wasted your money ?!!

I hope some of you are nodding along here otherwise I really need to take a hard look at my life !!


Why would you see someone is happy and giddy and try to make them miserable (I’m no psychologist but my guess is because they’re pretty miserable people with no ambition and so they just want everyone to feel like them)

My list isn’t gonna impact negatively on anyone’s life but my puppy dog enthusiasm about it seems to be threatening to some!!

So I have to hear how I’m not the right shape for running (effing nonsense ) I definitely won’t do a marathon cos ,you know they’re pretty hard …(hmmm yeah they are ,but so is birthing and raising 4 kids . So is leaving a long abusive relationship . So is ….well putting on duvet covers actually yet here I am , doing it !)

Urgh you’ve been saying you’re finishing that book forever …yawn…

(True I have . I’m a little temperamental though . Also full of anxiety and imposter syndrome when it comes to writing. So I’ve binned the whole thing in a strop/fit of self loathing many a time and had to start from scratch. Not necessarily a bad thing !)

I’m excited to be 40 , I’m excited to see how many things on my list I can do before the year is out. I’m excited to then make a 41 list.

I am ,by nature , an optimist .

The realist in me knows maybe all the list won’t get ticked off , but I’m still ready to give it a good old go !!

So let’s join together and turn the other cheek to all the negative voices and sneery Simon’s (I know no Simon’s … I’m not writing a whole blog post to dig at Simon honestly …the sneerers in my life are more than one man ….and none of them are called Simon …really!!)

Anyway let’s stick with good old Barbra and sing at the top of our lungs about not letting anyone rain on our parades !!!

*afterthought..see the list IS realistic because if it wasn’t – be leading lady in a West End show would DEFINITELY be up there .

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So all this stuff I’m meant to do before I’m 40….

I’ve perused a number of things to do before you’re 40 lists .

Oh… reason being it’s my birthday this week and I’m about to turn 39 which means at that point I’ll have 52 short weeks to fit it all in.

Thing is , they’re a bit nuts ??

It seems to do all the things I should do before I turn 40 require a lottery win and a personality change .

I found this list courtesy of The Independent so I thought I could talk you through a few of them.

Celebrate New Year’s Eve in a foreign city.

Ok this is a nice idea …however my birthday is only 2 weeks before new year so I really don’t have the planning time for this. Besides I don’t think I’ve ‘celebrated’ New Years Eve since 1998!!

Challenge yourself to complete something that seems impossible. Compete in the Ironman Triathlon, climb Mt. Everest, or finish a 100-mile race.

Woahhhhh there. Complete something impossible to me is like make it through a week without losing your purse , or dont fall over your own feet. These things seem a bit ambitious and attempting them would likely result in me never reaching 40.

Splurge on a meal at The French Laundry in California, or another three-star Michelin restaurant.

Oooo this I could do. Small girl’s life goal is to eat at a Michelin starred restaurant , she’d come ! Except I’m a very picky eater , I bet I’d not like anything. I’m one of those irritating people in restaurants who order “can I have x but without y and z”

Buy a piece of art you’re proud to display

I have 4 children I have no need to buy art! Teen boy the elder spent the entity of being 4 years old drawing me snooker tables and I still have the drawing small girl did for me of her living in a castle with Harry Styles . Those things are priceless!!

Go on a spiritual journey, whether it’s an ashram in India, the Western Wall in Jerusalem, or St. Peter’s in Vatican City.

My spiritual home is Hull though! Am I ok to stroll down Whitefriargate ,pop to the KC ,have Pattie and chips ? That’s got to count!

Learn five good wine and cheese pairings.

A) A glass of red

B) Cheese

Box ticked.

Drastically reinvent your look at least once.

Well I have kept my ‘look’ since the 90’s . My tartan skirt,thick black tights style is classic Rachel Green.

Maybe this is one I can actually pull off?? Except I’m a bit scared of reinvention?

Leave that idea with me , I’ll get back to you.

Take on a leadership position.

Ok , this is unlikely.

My social anxiety and people pleasing nature mean my version of leadership would make Theresa May look strong and stable (topical joke eh??See it’s not all vacuous nonsense!)

Get in the shape of your life.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

Yeah I think I’ll have to write my own list!!!