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Blogcrush week 78 – 10th August 2018

Happy Friday everyone !

How’s the week gone ? We surviving the holidays?

Big week here as my first born turns 18! How can that be ?? The boy who taught me how to be a mum is going to be an adult!!

Blogcrush has been one of my absolute favourite linkys from the off.

The kindest linky in town ,sharing all the lovely blog love.

Here you get to not only share your post but a fave you’ve read recently too!!

About BlogCrush

This linky will take blog post submissions from 6am (BST) Friday until 9pm Sunday. At that time, some thumbnail pictures will appear at the bottom of the post and each one will be a link to a different blog post.

– If you’re a blogger, add 2 posts (1 of yours AND 1 by someone else) by clicking the blue “add your link” button

– If you’re here just because you’re my friends and family and are supportive of my blog , well wait up ,stick around and have a browse. We have some very talented bloggers here.

Hosting this week is

Lucy At Home @lucy_at_home

and me!!!Daydreams of a Mum @daydreamer_mum

If you’ve ever come across an amazing post you want to shout from the rooftops about , this is the linky for you!!

If you’re here because someone has nominated you -huge congratulations !!

Feel free to pick up our pretty badge!!

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#BlogCrush

The Rules

  • Join in with 2 posts:
    • 1 post from your blog (personal) – no linkies please
    • 1 post from someone else’s blog (your #BlogCrush)
  • When you add your BlogCrush (post written by someone else) to the InLinkz form, put “BC” at the beginning of their title
  • Tweet your BlogCrush (& us) to let them know you’ve added them to the linky and share their link (@lucy_at_home and @daydreamer_mum) Please tweet us your own BlogCrush posts too so we can share them for you.
  • Comment using the #BlogCrush hashtag on at least these 4 posts:
    • 1 post from Host 1 (personal or BC)
    • 1 post from Host 2 (personal or BC)
    • 2x personal posts from the rest of the link up

So that’s a minimum of 4 posts.

Don’t forget to add our beautiful badge

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We get to choose our favourite posts to be featured each week.

This week Lucy has chosen It’s ok to take a blogging break by The MumAffairs

Wendy’s fave post last week was The agony of being fat shamed in public by 3 little buttons

Host Post

This week I’m linking up a post about my eldest turning 18 and how being his mum made me who I am

Have a great week everyone can’t wait to read your posts

Kelly xxx

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He made me

When your first born child is about to turn 18 there’s a lot of room for soul searching.

18 , that’s huge right ? I have grown a human to adulthood. Me , the girl who can’t keep a plant alive and who loses her purse weekly. Yet there is a man in the world that I grew in my actual body . Who I gave birth to despite my freakishly low pain threshold and who has managed to survive living with me for 18 years and still be relatively sane.

Is this the end point then? What we’ve been leading up to all this time. Can I look at this man and decide whether or not I did a good job. This man I made ?

Except , I didn’t make him or shape him really. The first born well he kinda did things his own way from the off. I’m sure some of my influence has to have rubbed off somewhere and there are genes in there I’m certainly responsible for. However I didn’t make this person.

He made me.

That sweaty August day when we first locked eyes , I was looking at a teeny tiny human who I needed to look after , all the time , forever. He was looking at a 20 year old girl who didn’t have a clue . Not. A . Clue.

He turned me into a mum ,that tiny baby.

He taught me resilience. He suffered horrid colic for months. Every night bang on time the screaming would start . I just felt helpless, he was in pain and I couldn’t help what kind of mum was I??? Every night I was sure I couldn’t get through it , every night we did and the next day , and the one after that.

He taught me how much my mum loved me. My mum died a year , almost to the day , before my son was born. I didn’t fall in love with J the second our eyes met. I’d have been so ashamed to admit that once , but it’s true . That rush of love I’d read about….well there was nothing much there. Weeks later though , during a night feed it just came. In a rush and completely overwhelming . I literally gasped …”I’d die for you ” I told him . “I’d kill for you ” it was massive and so intense and in that second I realised this was how my mum must have felt about me . I’d never been able to comprehend it before. That was an eye opener.

He taught me selflessness. I’m sure some people know this without having to have a baby . I needed it though. Putting another person ahead of yourself for every decision you make. It’s a biggie . I never would have known it if my son hadn’t taught me.

He taught me creativity. Nothing like your first World Book Day to make you learn how to think on your feet. His first ,he went as Harry Potter. I made glasses , I took ages drawing the perfect scar. I made a cloak of invisibility and believe me had I the know how to have made it actually work I really would have done. We won by the way . Not that it matters ….but WE DID!!!!

It’s more than just the big things though.

It’s the little things that have changed me , the tiny blink and you’ll miss them things.

I care about Hull City , like really care and Formula one and Harry Potter and The Hunger Games. I knew episodes of The Tweenies by heart , I was into Balamory !! His enthusiasm for anything is so infectious I can’t help but invest in it myself .

My son took a terrified 20 year old and over 18 years of love and work and tweaking made her into a mum. For him she could get through the bleakest of times . For him she could look an impossible situation square on , put her head down and just take it on. For him she could be braver than she ever thought possible .

All the children have left their mark on who I am , probably way more than I have them.

The first one though , he taught me to be a mum and I am forever grateful.

Also. One day when he was 4. I saw Doctor Who was making a comeback. I had never seen it before but I had a feeling this was something my son and I should watch together(also have the Billie crush). Oh didn’t we just , haven’t we just. I’m not sure how much of series 1 he took in but that’s ok because we’ve revisited it many many times!!

Doctor Who is ‘our’ thing. He can pick out an episode to suit my mood , we can spend many a day binging at not get bored. One day J I promise I will watch The Angels Take Manhattan RIGHT to the end without weeping .

Because of my son I was introduced to another love of my life in Doctor Who and I hope that we’ll always be able to squeeze in an episode or two .

He moulded me that amazing boy , and thank goodness for that.
I’m taking part in the Mummy Monday linky with Becca from Becca Blogs It Out

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A bit of a role reversal

I talk here lots about how great it is that the kids are all getting older and how much I love being a mum to teens (I know I never expected it either ) The thing is ….. I’ll whisper it …sometimes I miss them.

Sometimes I miss the noisy chaotic house , the being in demand . Our house is pretty calm these days , people come and go and I can notice a whole role reversal going on .

What was once a “What’s for tea” x4 from the second they opened their eyes , has become me asking “Who’s in for tea” because likely one or two will be out .

What was once “What are we doing today?” usually uttered around 6am every day of the summer holidays… relentlessly is now my asking “what are your plans for the day?” as a gauge to see if anyone is likely to want to do anything with me .

What was once , in the 3 under 3 days , me silently begging for just 5 minutes peace or silence or calm. Is now me asking does anyone want to watch a movie or play a board game like some kinda needy woman desperate for company .

What was once me counting down to the kids going away for a week with grandparents is now me syncing diaries to find a couple days when we are all 5 of us together .

Days out need meticulous planning with small girl spending half the time at her dad’s and the middle two having teenage social lives and the eldest’s work rota.

It’s not all bad though , the time we do all spend together is precious in its scarcity , no one is so fed up of one anothers company so we can actually have fun.

I’ve raised kids who have their own place in the world , that’s the goal right ?

They don’t reject hanging out with mum , it just needs scheduling…could be worse .

Things are evolving as they always have. That’s parenting.

The danger is looking at the past with rose tinted spectacles….would I go back to the 3 under 3 days of no sleep and no quiet and the hardest work ever. Not a chance .

Let’s face it , if I told you I hated being the first person up in a morning , getting tea and taking it back to bed with a book and enjoying an hour of quiet to start my day in the summer holidays , I’d be absolutely fibbing .

It’s just different…and that’s ok.


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7 highlights of a family trip to York

Just to say this not an ad or sponsored post. We paid for everything ourselves I just wanted to share some fun activities with you

Anyone who reads this blog or follows me on social media knows I love Yorkshire. I’ve lived away 10 years plus but I do miss home , Hull specifically obviously, but Yorkshire on the whole too.

So myself and 3 offspring ,poor glorious first born was busy working, found ourselves on actual Yorkshire Day heading for my favourite place in the world – York.

We only had a couple days (KNEW I should have added an extra night !) but we packed a fair bit in.

Can I share the highlights?

1) A trip down the river

There are a few ways to get onto the river and explore the scenery.

There are the cruise type boats which hold a fair few people and have variations on the river cruise theme afternoon tea cruises , floodlit cruises . I’ve been on cruise boats a few times and it’s a lovely way to see the river and had the additional bonus of commentary pointing out places of interest.

This time though we decided to hire our own little boat .

We appointed teen boy the younger as driver ? Sailor ? Captain?….he was in charge anyway and did a stirling job . Manoeuvring by the much bigger boats would have panicked me but he was cool as a cucumber. We did find hiring our own boat a lot more fun that the bigger cruisers and had a great time.

2) The Shambles

Small girl is a Harry Potter nut at the minute. Glorious first born has managed to pass down his love for Potter so she was desperate to see the ‘real’ Diagon Alley . What you and I would know as The Shambles.

We visited a Harry Potter themed shop. The Shop That Must Not Be Named . It was so popular you had to queue to get in but it was magical!!!

There is pretty much nothing you can’t buy in there but we stuck with a set of Harry Potter top trumps cards and a pin badge for each of with our house on.

Glorious first born’s souvenir

3) Street Performers

There are so many talented folk on the streets of York. Musicians , puppeteers , singers. Even a sword swallower that teen girl and I were way too squeamish to watch.

Our highlight here though was a fab escapologist . He was engaging and funny , roping in the audience to help and just a fab entertainer. When anyone asks small girl if she had a fun trip she tells them about him!!

4 ) Sol Ast pop up bar

We love Dean’s park next to the Minster anyway. Anywhere I can sit and look at the stunning York Minster is good by me . As we went to go sit in the sun on the evening of our first day though we saw this pop up bar. Gorgeous tipis complete with outdoor day beds and cushions to sit on and get cosy. We had some delicious burgers and mum even sneaked a little cocktail in the sun. I highly recommend the Minster Martini.This is only open this month though so you’ll have to be quick.

5) Dean’s Park

The park by the Minster which holds the pop up bar is also really lovely itself. We’d walked miles and miles on our first day ,so on day 2 we took some games and just hung out in the sunshine in the park.

When you play Harry Potter Top Trumps and get the Dumbledore card

6) A walk on the walls

Bad planning on mums part meant we didn’t get to the walls till just before we came home and tired legs were a bit of a prob , so we didn’t get a long stroll. I have done it myself many times though and there’s not a nicer way to take in the beauty of York.

7) York Youth Hostel

Last but by no means least. This was the most amazing place to stay. I’ve dithered about going away staying in Youth Hostels before , having a whole crew of children it can often be tricky to find rooms away to fit us all in. Ones that don’t cost the earth anyway.

I took the leap and booked the Youth Hostel , a bit concerned how it would be , but I honestly couldn’t fault the place. The staff were helpful and friendly , the room was clean and cosy and there was a nice bar area with a pool table and nice outdoor space. I honestly couldn’t have chosen a place more suited to us . There was a 15/20 min walk from the train station but when you can walk directly along the river it seems much shorter . I’m planning on a trip back to York , childless (see extra point below) and found YHA so nice I’ll probably stay there again on my own!!

Bonding moment alert , teaching your little sister pool

We had the best time in York ,it’s often tricky to find activities that both the teens and the 10 year old will like can be tricky . I also sometimes doubt myself taking everyone away on my own . This is silly I’ve been a single mum 10 years plus!!! However we had the best time and lots of fun.

One Extra Point

Something I didn’t get to do this time that I really want to is visit the pop up Shakespearean theatre Shakespeare’s Rose Theatre. It’s only around for the summer showing a selection of plays and has me written all over it .

You guys know how I love a little solo trip so will hopefully get back to York in a few weeks on my own to see a play here.


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Musings Of A Tired Mummy

My millennium baby is almost 18…

Yeah. Let that sink in.

He was born in 2000…. and he is almost 18!!!He likes to freak out his workmates with that fact.

Glorious first born ,please always remember he invented that name for himself, is 18 in less than 3 weeks.

Firstly . How did this happen???

How can it be true??

I mean obviously he’s been around forever . I had him at 20 so I’ve been a mum all my adult life .

My life *slush alert klaxon* is enhanced immeasurably for having him in it . Honestly he whizzed into my life , hijacked it in the most amazing way but he and I have grown up together.

I’m going to brave enough to tell our birth and pregnancy story over the next couple weeks. I have to….but for now…

I was 20 with a baby , neither of us had a bloody clue what we were doing. I had a book though. His amazing paternal grandma got me a book. I followed it to the letter because it was all I had.

My parents were gone .

My friends weren’t having babies ,they were being normal 20 year olds.

So Josh and I and a book was all we had. You know the backstory by now ,home life wasn’t pleasant . I wasn’t being supported and loved and helped.

It was just him and I .

One of us had colic. Both of us cried every night between 5-7 pm.

Now though , this man . This man who is an amazing human is almost 18. I’m biased of course I am but he’s just great. He’s interested in politics and what’s going on in the world. He is kind and thoughtful. He’s an amazing big brother – he honestly is. They’d never admit it but his siblings look up to him.Small girl…well that’s just hero worship

Anyway I’ll write a blog nearer his birthday on what a great human he is and how so bloody lucky I am to have him as a son….

But….what do you get an 18 year old who isn’t big into stuff. Who when you ask what he wants for Christmas will tell you to just do one of your “surprises” because they’re the best.

So here is my plan. …

I want to get him 18 little gifts , one to represent every year he’s been my mum tutor. I imagine Tweenies to feature , snooker and Harry Potter and all his other loves . He takes after his mum in that when he loves , he loves hard!!! Obsessively perhaps!!

Obviously if a blogger does something and doesn’t blog it did she even do it? So I’ll be keeping you all in the loop.

Also any other millennium mums out there remember any crazes or important things …would love to hear suggestions !!!

Blog Crush week 76 – July 27th 2018

It’s Friday again!!!!

Small girl finally finishes school today – the holidays are ON!!!

The younger 3 and I are going away to York , my fave place in the world. for a couple days next week so that makes me happy. Hope you who are already in full flow of the hold are coping and not heard too many “I’m bored” cries just yet!!So onto Blogcrush….

Blogcrush has been one of my absolute favourite linkys from the off.

The kindest linky in town ,sharing all the lovely blog love.

Here you get to not only share your post but a fave you’ve read recently too!!

About BlogCrush

This linky will take blog post submissions from 6am (BST) Friday until 9pm Sunday. At that time, some thumbnail pictures will appear at the bottom of the post and each one will be a link to a different blog post.

– If you’re a blogger, add 2 posts (1 of yours AND 1 by someone else) by clicking the blue “add your link” button

– If you’re here just because you’re my friends and family and are supportive of my blog , well wait up ,stick around and have a browse. We have some very talented bloggers here.

Hosting this week is

Lucy At Home @lucy_at_home

and me!!!Daydreams of a Mum @daydreamer_mum

If you’ve ever come across an amazing post you want to shout from the rooftops about , this is the linky for you!!

If you’re here because someone has nominated you -huge congratulations !!

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The Rules

  • Join in with 2 posts:
    • 1 post from your blog (personal) – no linkies please
    • 1 post from someone else’s blog (your #BlogCrush)
  • When you add your BlogCrush (post written by someone else) to the InLinkz form, put “BC” at the beginning of their title
  • Tweet your BlogCrush (& us) to let them know you’ve added them to the linky and share their link (@lucy_at_home and @daydreamer_mum) Please tweet us your own BlogCrush posts too so we can share them for you.
  • Comment using the #BlogCrush hashtag on at least these 4 posts:
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This week Lucy has chosen The Good Side of Online Dating by Late Baby Bloomer.

My favourite this week was Dummy -saying goodbye by My Little One and Me. It’s been a while since dummies here but I remember saying goodbye well !!

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This week I’m linking up a post about how the the 18 summers meme is annoying me now I’ve had my 18 with the eldest!!

Have a great week everyone can’t wait to read your posts

Kelly xxx

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My 18 summers are up….now what then???

You’ll have probably seen the 18 summers meme doing the rounds.

My reasons for hating it are twofold.

Firstly – the pressure!!!

The implication that if we’re not all replicas of Topsy and Tim’s mum , loving every second of parenting and permanently sporting a smile that makes me wonder what ratio of gin to valium she’s using , then we’re doing it wrong. That we’re undeserving in some way.

The summer holidays are long ….so long. If you have to work during them you’re likely having to sell a kidney to pay for childcare so not feeling mega chirpy about the situation. Or otherwise having to be nice to friends and family so they’ll help you out with childcare which is exhausting in itself.

If you’re home with the little treasures for 6 WHOLE BLOODY WEEKS then give yourself a mighty pat on the back if you get to the end of week one and haven’t called a pj day yet. These ,I feel a bit sneery, memes I don’t think help anyone . It smacks of ‘you’re not trying hard enough to make your kids childhood magical, you lazy cow…. they’re gonna need therapy when they’re older because you you slothful pig didn’t even cut their sandwiches into flower shapes and decorate their plate with vegetables you grew with your own hands and carved into the shape of their favourite Disney character. Shame on you .

Shame. On. You

You didn’t take them to Mandarin classes either did you ? You didn’t take them on an archeological dig or the ballet or craft your entire house to within an inch of your life did you?

You lazy arse went to soft play for a couple hours and sat drinking rubbish tea didn’t you ???Then fed them a FROZEN pizza ….urgh you’re a disgrace.

Everyone wants to give their kids fond memories to look back on when they’re older. Thing is these memories mainly come from something organic ,unforced. I don’t remember summer hols being all about days out and stimulation as a kid. I remember playing out all day long with our friends or my sister and I making up dance routines or pretending the stairs were a bus!!!

I hope everyone makes some memories this summer but just leave the guilt out of it for goodness sakes. We as spend our lives worrying we’re not good enough . Twee Facebook memes just aren’t necessary.

Secondly though. It appears I have run out of summers with my eldest.

18 summers , that’s what the meme says. I’ve had them all. He’s a summer baby and is 18 in a couple weeks.

So then what??,Is he going to disappear. Will I go to get him up one morning and he’ll have vanished till September??

I don’t think our summer time is quite up yet . We’ve a couple of trips away planned . We’ve cinema trips and days out scheduled . Not to mention the big 18 celebrations.

Does this make me greedy , that I love that he still wants to hang out with us ? I’ve had my 18 summers should I move on and leave him alone?

The summer holidays have changed now I’ve 3 teenagers . You’ve got to schedule time into their hectic social lives but everyone still wants to do things together from time to time. I know I don’t get the teens day in day out for 6 WHOLE WEEKS anymore because they’ve bigger fish to fry.

That’s not a totally awful thing.

In fact 18 summers preachers let me tell you something that’ll have you reeling. For a good few days in this very precious summer . 1 of my 18. I’m going on holiday. Without the kids .

Poor unfortunates who have followed my blog a while will know last summer I went to Edinburgh festival alone and it changed my entire mindset well this year I am making my glorious comeback. Without the kids…… but with a MAN!!!!

Ooooo she’s wasting one of her precious summers hanging out with a guy , drinking GnTs and watching plays and snogging??tut!!

Yes she absolutely is !!!!

Not a fraction of guilt about it either.

Thing is I’m the kids ever present.

I’ve always been the kids ever present.In summer AND winter . In the school hols and during term time.

We have some ace memories and we have many more to come I hope.

So really I’m ok with the days we sit and watch movies in our PJs . The days the kids have way too much screen time because it stops them bickering. The days we have takeaway because oh I’ve lost the will to live never mind cook. I’m ok with all those things .

It’s just my version is way too long to make a cute meme out of …

I’ve always been a waffler.

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It’s all different , but it’s all good…

Dear teens ,

I’m sure you can recall the days where the end of the school year signified greatness. The summer stretched out in front of us as though it was going to last forever and I was happy to have my little people all to myself without school getting the best part of you leaving me with a couple of hours of grumpy ,tired kids before bed.

Every day of the holidays would begin the same. Ridiculously early (J I am looking at you !) The sentence that would strike fear into my heart would be asked before your first mouthful of cereal had hit your lips.

“What are we doing today?”

Because it’s the summer holidays right? Mums job to provide quality entertainment and fun for 6 weeks. Every. Single. Day.

I tried to too!!! I mean some of those days were brilliant. Works of mum genius . Some were not so much , there’s only so many times you can spin feeding the ducks rivalling Euro disney for the fun factor.

Things are different now.

You all have your own lives , your own plans .

Your “what are we doing today ?” has become my “when are you home?” said daily , in a needy fashion.

Making plans to do anything at all means diary syncing to the nth degree. NONE of you want to feed the ducks.

This is all ok though. I’m not going to mourn summers past . I’ve spoken before about how parenting has a cruel twist that the end game , the thing we have to strive for is that we will bring up independent , self assured humans. That we plough years into parenting with the end goal being that you’ll no longer need us. That you’ll be off ,as you will this summer , working and socialising and living your lives . You do it well. All of you do and I’m so ridiculously proud of you.

Be cool if you could check in with your little sister and I though from time to time . Watch a movie ? Jump on the train to Buxton? Swim or bowl or picnic? That’d be extra special because once you had to hang out with me in the summer holidays , you had no choice. Now you definitely do so if you choose to spend some of your precious (hopefully long and sunny )summer with me , well then actually I’d be honoured.

Ps speaking of your sister …just take a min to feel sorry for her . Back in t’day there were 3 of you to.share my crazy daft treasure hunts or random (often rubbish ) days out to weird stuff. She’s on her own here getting the full force of the mum summer.

Poor girl.

Have the best summer yet guys. I’ll be ready with snacks and scavenger hunts whenever you need me ….ok ok just the snacks then!!!

 

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Blogcrush week 75 – July 20th 2018

It’s Friday again!!!!

Oh am I ready for it this week. The kids have that end of term tiredness/grumpy thing going on (I probably do too if I’m honest) So everyone here is just irritable and bickery.

Sigh….however FRIDAY IS HERE! I am going out tonight and even more excitingly …It’s Blogcrush time!!!

Blogcrush has been one of my absolute favourite linkys from the off.

The kindest linky in town ,sharing all the lovely blog love.

Here you get to not only share your post but a fave you’ve read recently too!!

About BlogCrush

This linky will take blog post submissions from 6am (BST) Friday until 9pm Sunday. At that time, some thumbnail pictures will appear at the bottom of the post and each one will be a link to a different blog post.

– If you’re a blogger, add 2 posts (1 of yours AND 1 by someone else) by clicking the blue “add your link” button

– If you’re here just because you’re my friends and family and are supportive of my blog , well wait up ,stick around and have a browse. We have some very talented bloggers here.

Hosting this week is

Lucy At Home @lucy_at_home

and me!!!Daydreams of a Mum @daydreamer_mum

If you’ve ever come across an amazing post you want to shout from the rooftops about , this is the linky for you!!

If you’re here because someone has nominated you -huge congratulations !!

Feel free to pick up our pretty badge!!

#BlogCrush

The Rules

  • Join in with 2 posts:
    • 1 post from your blog (personal) – no linkies please
    • 1 post from someone else’s blog (your #BlogCrush)
  • When you add your BlogCrush (post written by someone else) to the InLinkz form, put “BC” at the beginning of their title
  • Tweet your BlogCrush (& us) to let them know you’ve added them to the linky and share their link (@lucy_at_home and @daydreamer_mum) Please tweet us your own BlogCrush posts too so we can share them for you.
  • Comment using the #BlogCrush hashtag on at least these 4 posts:
    • 1 post from Host 1 (personal or BC)
    • 1 post from Host 2 (personal or BC)
    • 2x personal posts from the rest of the link up

So that’s a minimum of 4 posts.

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This week Lucy has chosen first born child moments in time from Old House in The Shires

My favourite this week was selling the idea of group living by Mother almost never knows best. I love the idea of communal living but as she touches on in the post you would have to be very, very selective!!

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This week I’m linking up a post about Emotional abuse and the journey you have to go on to rebuild afterwards Then I became me…

Have a great week everyone can’t wait to read your posts

Kelly xxx

Let’s take back ‘nice’

I am enjoying being part of a world where Gareth Southgate is cool.
It’s not that I have some kind of waistcoat fetish , but I just want to live in a world where nice is celebrated . Where quiet , calm and understated is appreciated.
I have always been uncomfortable with nice. It’s a description that has been used about me a lot right from being young. It’s often been in quite a negative way though.
The word nice was banned as a descriptive word in English classes at school so sorry Mr Brown but I’m about to write a whole blog post on it
In Primary school I always had to sit next to the troubled boys , the ones who wanted to kick the living shit out of folk rather than sit and do their work. They’d not cause trouble next to me , I’d be nice to them. So I had to attempt to do my learning besides the chaos that was reigning supreme beside me and barely be able to concentrate. That was where nice got you.
In later years I was always the one tasked with looking after people . New people at school , new people at work. As I was nice , I’d look after them . Which of course I did but that extra responsibility that I’d never asked for and was never asked if it were ok. It’d just be presumed because Kelly is nice she’ll do it.
I realise now that nice is often a synonym for doormat.
Nice has been used to mean –
She won’t say no
She’ll not kick up a fuss if you treat her badly
She’ll do way more than is expected of anyone else what with her being so nice
She’ll put up with guys treating her terribly so as not to hurt their feelings
She’ll forgive way too often and way too easily
She’ll back down in a confrontation so it’s fine to bully her a little bit
She’ll keep quiet about awful things you do
She’ll keep quiet about most things actually.
Us ‘nice ‘ folk need to take back the word. We all need to actually. Let’s revolutionise nice.
Let’s use nice to mean considerate and compassionate , kind and empathetic , tolerant and patient.
Not doormat but just decent human.
We can all do that.
A while ago I decided not to be around ,if it was at all possible, people who didn’t make me feel good. It has done me the world of good. So let’s add that . Nice doesn’t have to mean you put up with other peoples toxic crap because as well as being kind and compassionate towards other people we have to do the same to ourselves!
Brash and loud has been at the forefront for a long while you only have to watch any reality tv show to see that. Shouty , sweary “look at me ,I’m so wild” has become something to replicate. All well and good but are any of our lives going to be enriched by being more shouty , sweary , brash?? Well quite possibly but I’m not going to give it a go.
Surely aiming to be a little more quietly tolerant and compassionate might enrich you though. I’m definitely going to try harder.
If nice is coming back into fashion (thanks Gareth) let’s do it on out terms!!!

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