You’ll have probably seen the 18 summers meme doing the rounds.
My reasons for hating it are twofold.
Firstly – the pressure!!!
The implication that if we’re not all replicas of Topsy and Tim’s mum , loving every second of parenting and permanently sporting a smile that makes me wonder what ratio of gin to valium she’s using , then we’re doing it wrong. That we’re undeserving in some way.
The summer holidays are long ….so long. If you have to work during them you’re likely having to sell a kidney to pay for childcare so not feeling mega chirpy about the situation. Or otherwise having to be nice to friends and family so they’ll help you out with childcare which is exhausting in itself.
If you’re home with the little treasures for 6 WHOLE BLOODY WEEKS then give yourself a mighty pat on the back if you get to the end of week one and haven’t called a pj day yet. These ,I feel a bit sneery, memes I don’t think help anyone . It smacks of ‘you’re not trying hard enough to make your kids childhood magical, you lazy cow…. they’re gonna need therapy when they’re older because you you slothful pig didn’t even cut their sandwiches into flower shapes and decorate their plate with vegetables you grew with your own hands and carved into the shape of their favourite Disney character. Shame on you .
Shame. On. You
You didn’t take them to Mandarin classes either did you ? You didn’t take them on an archeological dig or the ballet or craft your entire house to within an inch of your life did you?
You lazy arse went to soft play for a couple hours and sat drinking rubbish tea didn’t you ???Then fed them a FROZEN pizza ….urgh you’re a disgrace.
Everyone wants to give their kids fond memories to look back on when they’re older. Thing is these memories mainly come from something organic ,unforced. I don’t remember summer hols being all about days out and stimulation as a kid. I remember playing out all day long with our friends or my sister and I making up dance routines or pretending the stairs were a bus!!!
I hope everyone makes some memories this summer but just leave the guilt out of it for goodness sakes. We as spend our lives worrying we’re not good enough . Twee Facebook memes just aren’t necessary.
Secondly though. It appears I have run out of summers with my eldest.
18 summers , that’s what the meme says. I’ve had them all. He’s a summer baby and is 18 in a couple weeks.
So then what??,Is he going to disappear. Will I go to get him up one morning and he’ll have vanished till September??
I don’t think our summer time is quite up yet . We’ve a couple of trips away planned . We’ve cinema trips and days out scheduled . Not to mention the big 18 celebrations.
Does this make me greedy , that I love that he still wants to hang out with us ? I’ve had my 18 summers should I move on and leave him alone?
The summer holidays have changed now I’ve 3 teenagers . You’ve got to schedule time into their hectic social lives but everyone still wants to do things together from time to time. I know I don’t get the teens day in day out for 6 WHOLE WEEKS anymore because they’ve bigger fish to fry.
That’s not a totally awful thing.
In fact 18 summers preachers let me tell you something that’ll have you reeling. For a good few days in this very precious summer . 1 of my 18. I’m going on holiday. Without the kids .
Poor unfortunates who have followed my blog a while will know last summer I went to Edinburgh festival alone and it changed my entire mindset well this year I am making my glorious comeback. Without the kids…… but with a MAN!!!!
Ooooo she’s wasting one of her precious summers hanging out with a guy , drinking GnTs and watching plays and snogging??tut!!
Yes she absolutely is !!!!
Not a fraction of guilt about it either.
Thing is I’m the kids ever present.
I’ve always been the kids ever present.In summer AND winter . In the school hols and during term time.
We have some ace memories and we have many more to come I hope.
So really I’m ok with the days we sit and watch movies in our PJs . The days the kids have way too much screen time because it stops them bickering. The days we have takeaway because oh I’ve lost the will to live never mind cook. I’m ok with all those things .
It’s just my version is way too long to make a cute meme out of …
I’ve always been a waffler.
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