The Power of Women



My eldest daughter of all four children is the one I worry about the most.


I know you can’t and certainly shouldn’t compare children. They’re all individuals. I know this. I can’t be the only parent who sometimes wonders how if you’ve parented all your children in the same way how come the end result is so different?


I’ve always admitted that my parenting style is one of  making it up as I go along  , it seems to work the majority of the time though.


Before eldest girl came my two sons.


They do fantastically academically , impeccably well behaved ( in school at any rate I’m not raising Topsy and Tim here!) they’re driven and motivated and *touch wood * at almost 17 and 15 they’ve never caused me too much bother or worry.


Eldest girl is a whole different kettle of fish. I learnt this when she was a baby. She has always been fiercely independent, very head strong and to be brutally frank , a bit of a pain in the arse . I wrote here why I don’t think that is particularly a bad thing.


I’ve asked her permission to write this as I really don’t want this to seem as though I am blogging about my child in a negative way. This isn’t negative. I did always want my blog to be a honest place though and it may seem I am always talking about how great it is to be a parent of teens ( and it really , really is in my experience so far ) There are challenges though.


Eldest girl has struggled with school this past year. She doesn’t seem to settle into it well. She’ll get into trouble for talking and rolling her eyes when a teacher tells her to hush. I’ll get emails about how she’s answered teachers back. I get irritable and annoyed with her when I hear this . I’d not stand for that kind of horrible bad manners at home, that she will display it to other people , well I really hate that.


I think I should take a bit of responsibility though. After all am I not the one who tells her to never let injustice pass her by? Who acknowledges that as a female my daughter will always have to shout louder to be heard, that she’ll have to fight to be allowed to take up space. If I then punish her for doing what she sees as standing up for herself, well I’m probably giving out mixed messages.


I wrote here about trying to teach her about picking her battles and that’s something we still need to work on.


I do worry she has little focus , that she has no real plans for the future , she’s 14 I don’t expect her to have her life mapped out I just think having something to aim for is healthy.



Last week we had a breakthrough.


My daughter is one of only 4 girls who have chosen to do computing as a GCSE next year. These girls were invited to go to a local company (CDL in Stockport) for the day. To have a look around, to chat to people who work there and to learn a bit more about a career in I.T ( oh my is it even still called I.T ? I am sooo old)



My daughter came home from this day inspired! Truly! She couldn’t shut up about her day and the people she’d met. She’d put together a plan and researched what GCSE grades she’d need and what her options were after school to pursue this career that has spoken to her so loudly.


The thing with my eldest daughter is that she, at 14 , has been coming up against inequality and sexism already for a very , very long time. From the boys who wouldn’t pass to her as a girl in the primary school football team. From teachers who have had her help others struggling with work when she’s finished early when the boys are given extension work. From certain family and ‘friends’ who pass comment about why can’t she dress like a proper girl. She is very much a hoody and trackies kind of girl and I really am quite jealous because she rocks it. I would look a fool. From the horrible words such as difficult and feisty and bossy that are never applied to her male counterparts exhibiting the same behaviour.


Yet last week she went to a company where they didn’t just tolerate females in a male dominated environment but they embraced it, they actively encouraged it . I think that could have been the first time (other than mum who obviously doesn’t count ) that she’d been told how valuable she was as a young woman. That her contribution to the world was welcomed, that there is a space for female voices where you don’t have to shout to be heard.


I’ve always said that I think the key to channelling my daughter’s spirit and passion is to surround her by inspirational , empowering women who can help her with learning how to choose battles and channel the kind of drive that makes me think of all my children she could no doubt change the world.


Last week she got a taste of that and I’m so grateful to CDL for sparking something in my daughter that has left her motivated and excited for the future.



Now ..just need to work on the eye rolling…..




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18 thoughts on “The Power of Women

  1. It’s amazing that your two boys weren’t the trouble makers! I’ve only ever grown up with girls and having a daughter myself, I don’t know much about having boys. But have often been told they are alot of work! Growing up I was a rebel like your daughter and I didn’t do very well from year 7 to year 10 because I’d rather be a smart arse than actually do work. But year 11 and year 12 came I knew this was the time I had to study, and I ended up doing pretty well in Year 12 (got top 3% of the state and now I’m a Pharmacist). I’m not bragging at all.. what I’m trying to say is that she might change, and it’s good that she can talk back (it may not seem like it now but itll come in handy in the workforce and she won’t be walked all over). My sister was the opposite of me and now she struggles with workplace politics. Every baby is different, don’t worry, all you can do is be the best mother you can. My mum use to blame herself alot too but we all turned out fine! 🙂

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    1. You talk a lot of sense. My daughter is much like my sister who does just fine for herself . I was and am the opposite and I’m probably a bit of a doormat!!! I am hoping when GCSEs start in September she’ll realise to take it seriously!!!


  2. This is interesting. I have two boys 15 and almost 11. And while the elder son is quite well behaved and very well placed academically, it’s the younger son who is a bit of a handful. He seems to be getting better though. Well, do you think her rebellious streak will come down once she is out of her teens? Meanwhile, grin and bear it, I guess.

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  3. Well it sounds like she has found her thing Kelly? I hear so much of this and then once they find their way into their right environment – everything changes. Good luck to her and it sounds as they she is more than ready to flourish #tweensteensbeyond

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  4. My daughter is the same age as yours and she is really pushing all the buttons and boundaries at the moment with her attitude but I think generally she is good and like your daughter, is simply finding her way and where she is most comfortable. It is fabulous to see that your daughter has been so inspired by something. Good luck with that, often it is a passion for something that gives them a focus and sorts them out. #TweensTeensBeyond

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  5. Such a positive story. I’m one of 3 girls in my family and we all have science degrees and work in tech. I’m a content manager and did maths, computing, chemistry and biology at A level. I was one of 3 girls that did Computing with about 60 lads. They were all too painfully shy to talk to me, ignoring me as the token girl. I had the highest coursework score in my class. Girls rule in tech but you do have to fight and have a thick skin. So glad she felt inspired. Thanks for linking up to #fortheloveofblog x

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