Spending Christmas with people you’d rather not? Let me help… 

Christmas is fantastic. I loved it anyway , but when you’re a parent it takes on a whole new level of awesomeness. It goes from being amazing to bloody brilliant!The problem is everyone wants to be round the kids for Christmas.Therefore you might end up having to spend the special day with pain in the arse in laws , annoying siblings or in my case for many years my child’s other parent !

Having people you’d rather not over for Christmas dinner or having to go to other peoples houses doesn’t have to put a downer on Christmas though.

I’m not claiming to be an expert , but I’ve spent the past 15 years doing one or the other so I have picked up a few handy hints along the way..let me share!

* The main thing is to avoid conflict.At all costs. This may mean restraining from pouring a whole gravy boat over the person who has said ‘Is this turkey a bit dry?’ Or it may mean spending the couple of hours with a fixed smile when an elder relative comments on how spoilt the kids are and in their day you got an apple and orange and were grateful! Whatever it takes (even if that is hiding in the larder with a bottle of Prosecco and a straw)

* Which leads to the next point. If you’re going to have a drink , just have a couple (until your unwanted guests are gone or you’ve left whoevers house you are at anyway) My motto is drink enough to render you mellow not enough to loosen your tongue. Previously I’ve had a glass whilst I hide in the kitchen whilst someone else puts toys together lovingly cook a feast of a meal. Then obviously a glass over lunch. At this point I would point out to my guest that I would get him a drink but he has to drive home doesn’t he? (code for you are NOT staying over) Post lunch gentle nudges are necessary to get your visitor to leave. I like to use “ooo Eastenders is on in a bit!!” Now I don’t always watch soaps over Christmas , but I am not going to surrender THAT get of jail free card!..and with a kiss on the cheek and a Merry Christmas they are gone and you can open the good wine.

*Keep cool with the ‘It’s all about the kids’ mantra .Make sure at the times you feel a bit niggled just look for the kids? Are they smiling? Course they are! Grandma / uncle /cousins/daddy may annoy the hell out of you but they’re up there in the children’s top 5 people. So as long as they are having fun everything is fine. Every year before my children go to bed on Christmas Day they declare it The Best Christmas Ever. That will do for me.

*If you’re having to go to someone else’s house because ‘that’s what we ALWAYS do’ Be prepared. This is usually a mother in law one. She’s insistent that she has hosted Christmas since it began. If pushed she may declare that Jesus was actually born in the shed at the end of her garden. Anything to ensure her family are at her bosom for Christmas dinner. This is likely the kind of mother I’m going to become when the kids are older , so I do get the woman! Anyway if you are going to someone else’s house. Prepare yourself for the fact they may do Christmas differently .This can range from the relatively minor of only getting one roast potato each with dinner (hit me with half a dozen or don’t bother. Do not tease me with one!) to the more serious of insisting on a walk after lunch. Only place I want to walk to on Christmas day is the telly with a glass of wine in one hand and a selection box in the other.

Have a lovely , fun filled time whatever you end up doing . Let’s face it , annoying relatives (even other people’s) are as much a Christmas tradition as turkey!!

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34 thoughts on “Spending Christmas with people you’d rather not? Let me help… 

  1. 100% keep the peace! I’m THAT person who’ll basically let herself be walked all over just so that infamous peace is kept. There will be no moaning, until the walk to the car after the festivities, when all hell shall be let loose. Thank you for linking up to the last #Chucklemums, it’s been a blast! Look out for a possible reincarnation next year…

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  2. Love this! I love Christmas but the stress of figuring out where you are going, who is going to be there, and trying to make everyone feel in charge can be exhausting – I think the fixed smile will appear the minute I arrive at someone’s house and thankfully go when we get in the car to go home. But the kids will have a brilliant time, and ultimately that is all I really want!

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  3. The worst part of the Christmas period is visiting/hosting visitors. I like to keep myself to myself all year round, but Christmas is worse because all I want to do is be at home with my husband and daughter and everyone else can bugger off! So far in our 4th year of marriage hubby and I have insisted that we have Christmas together, no visitors! However this year it’s looking increasingly likely that we may have to host the MIL come Christmas evening, which I’m not looking forward to. But I can’t very well leave her spend Christmas evening on her own after she finishes lunch with her mother. I’m glad it’s not just me #HoneybeeLinky

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    1. Aaarrgghh no!!!Yeah I just like to shut the door Christmas eve and just have the kids and I , I would hang a Keep Out sign if I could but that’s probably a step too far!!!

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  4. Haha! I wanted to write something like this but my family reads my blog so I have had to bite my tongue. I have chosen to see my father in law and his wife for christmas this year. Our mothers usually get first dibs on Christmas but I felt it was time he got to share it with us. It has definitely put a few noses out of joint but meh, it’s our christmas and we share it where we like. Thank you for linking up with Honeybee Linky, see you for this week’s too I hope! xxx

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  5. Haha! Sounds like you’ve got it sussed. My side of the family were by far the worst to spend Christmas with, annual having the ‘Christmas row’ with most of my relatives enjoying the drama too much. We’ve spent Christmas with my wife’s family as soon as I could for the past 10 years. It’s been great! #blogcrush

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  6. My children are grown, so I no longer HAVE to spend Christmas with the in-laws each year. AND THIS STAGE IS WONDERFUL. We have the best Christmas days right now, just with the kids and their partners. I don’t expect we’ll get away with it for long, but I’m taking them while we can xx Maria

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  7. Aaaah families…! Haha. We tend to end up at someone else’s house for Christmas as our family all live together apart form us who are at the other end of the country. We have a little tradition of our kids opening their stockings in the morning so that there is some continuity for the kids, no matter whose house we end up at each year. But after that, we are at the mercy of everyone else! Haha. Also I’m totally with you on the roastie front! #blogcrush

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  8. This is brilliant on so many levels Kelly! One potato, Jesus in the shed and the good wine. Yes, we can identify with all of these. Thanks so much for continuing to share with #tweensteensbeyond and being part of our community. Have a beautiful Christmas with your lovely family x

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  9. It can be equally wonderful and fractious but to be honest despite my best intentions to dislike the effort etc I so love hunkering down and being with those I love and shutting out the rest of the world. Hope you have had a good one gorgeous girl and wishing you a Fab New Year. #TweensTeensBeyond

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