I had a whinge here last week about how lonely single parenting is at times. It is too, but to me that’s the only real down side I find in being a single parent.
You’d have to ask my elder 3 children their down sides in having me as the sole stable influence.. actually let’s not do that, it might not be pretty!
After my moan I wanted to talk instead about how I enjoy our family dynamic. We’ve been ‘us 5’ for many years now. I like it, I think the kids do. It’s cosy and comfy and it’s home.
We are 5.
Mum,who needs to up her organisational game but makes a good pie.
Eldest boy- Maths and science enthusiast who fancies being like Brian Cox, a scientist AND a rock star.
Youngest boy – Enjoys food. Pasta maniac. Funny beyond words. Best Garth Crooks impersonator.
Eldest girl – Sporting superstar. Dress hater. Smashing sexist stereotypes one at a time.
Youngest girl – lover of all things fairy. Bookworm. Cooking show enthusiast.
You see how all these personalities combined could make for a slightly quirky household. It just comes together and works though. That’s how families work I suppose! ! We fit. ‘Us 5’works for us.
Being a single mum does have its advantages. I’m lucky to get to be the one who gets to spend time with them, know their quirky little likes and dislikes. The one who knows their interests and what makes them tick! Just sitting chatting with them and hearing their take on the world is a favourite way to pass my time.
I talk in these blog often about finding Mr Perfect (for me) remember the list? I just don’t know where on earth he’d fit into our dynamic though. This may be why I don’t get too involved with anyone. I’d date , I’ve softened a lot on that front. Having another person around for board games Friday though or an extra bum on the sofa for a Doctor who marathon?Hmmm, not sure.
Just us 5 works just fine.
What I’m realising recently though is that ‘us 5’, well that’s already changing. As the teens are getting older occasions where all 5 of us are home or doing something together are becoming more rare. I’m aware for the first time really that ‘us 5’ isn’t going to be that forever or even that much longer. In 2 years the eldest will be away to uni, the middle two will be out having a social life rather than playing Articulate with me.
I can see approaching on the horizon a time when ‘ us 5’ will be a special treat rather than the norm. I can’t be too sad about that either, it’s my job to raise independent human beings isn’t it?
Maybe if the dynamics are changing anyway a time could come where we could squeeze an extra person on the sofa for Doctor who?
Or maybe I’ll need that space to put all my comfort food when the kids are all too cool to be watching TV with needy mum!
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